As a business owner, there are a million things to be done to get a business running or to keep it running smoothly. Between making sure that your brand is seamless, keeping clients happy, and keeping up with everything that is social media, your spouse may not even have a clear idea of what is going on. I bet you haven't really taken the time to sit down and explain what you are working on. I find that spouse's are very supportive. If you want your relationship to get stronger, send them the link to this blog post. Better yet, sit down and read this blog post together! That way a dialogue can open and you two can have a conversation about what your goals are and how you can achieve them.
When You're The Spouse
What do you do when you're the spouse and you have no idea what your husband or wife is trying to accomplish, but you know they spend a ridiculous amount of time on the computer? On the other side, what happens if your spouse is building a business and has recruited you to help them? It can be really hard when you're stuck in the middle of everything.
As much as you want to help them succeed and see their dreams realized, there is only so much that you can do. There are definitely some things to keep in mind. No matter what, take the time to listen. When they want to talk out their issues or problems, take the time to put away the laptops and phones and actually talk. Don't pretend to have all of their answers. If you don't know something or if you know someone else has an answer which might help them even more, direct them to them! Sometimes the best thing you can do for your relationship is to stop talking about business and focus on each other.
help promote them!
The best way you could show your support to your spouse is to promote them! Don't comment to your friends, family, or even each other about the "little project" that they're working on. Rave about the amazing direction they are working towards and how proud you are of them. When your coworkers are looking for what your spouse offers, speak up! Make it known around your office and hangout spots what your spouse is working on and when the need arises, your spouse will be the first person they go to.
If you don't truly understand what direction they are working towards, ask them about it. Have them sit down and explain it out as fully as they can. Learn their goals, understand what they offer, and try your best to learn what they are passionate about. It's okay if you don't fully understand why they choose that path or even exactly what it entails. As long as you make an effort to understand and get the basics down, then you can show your support and still promote them to people you know.
Ask if you can help in any way
When someone is starting a business, they focus all of their energy into it. There are different reasons as to why the business is started, but it is no secret it takes a huge amount of energy to get it there. When all of your spouse's energy is expelled into starting their business venture, things start to fall by the wayside. Things like cleaning, making dinner, or running errands can start to pile up. Instead of arguing about who's job it was to actually complete each of the different tasks, take it upon yourself to do some of them.
It's not that your spouse believes that you should handle everything. It's that they are so focused on making what they are trying to do work, that they forget about simple tasks like cleaning and cooking. Sometimes it's better to just do the chore yourself than to cause a big fight about it. However, don't be afraid to talk to your spouse about it. If you find yourself starting to become resentful or even bitter about the whole situation, talk to your spouse. Let them know that you appreciate everything they are trying to do, but you would like some more help in certain areas. I'm sure they will understand.
Get Them out of their own heads
At the end of the day, your support is all your spouse asks for. How you give it is unique to you. Don't feel like you have to take over everything while they work. You two are in a relationship and need to make sure to keep the flame alive. Pull them out of their own mind's for awhile and go on a date. If you don't have the funds to go out, have a cleaning dance party or cook a big meal together. Your relationship will not only benefit and blossom from doing this, but they will end up thanking you for making them take a break and get a new perspective on their business.
The best thing you can do for your relationship is to really make sure communication is clear, concise, and constant. A majority of fights and breakups are based on misunderstandings which could have been avoided if only communication was better. Above all, remember you two fell in love with each other for a reason. Being in a relationship takes work and effort.
You CAN start a business and be in a loving committed relationship - if you're willing to work for it.